Friends Are the Siblings We Never Had: A Shout Out to all of the Only Children Out There
I am one of those people who will never take friendship for granted and you can be sure that I am there for the long haul. Being an only child, I have always had a different perspective on friendship because it is the closest thing I will have to a sibling. While growing up in my hometown of Clarksville, Maryland, this friendship had always been my cousin. I have been so lucky to have this girl in my life. The sisterly bond we share is the closest I will ever come to knowing what it is like to have an actual sister. When I went away to school and eventually ended up moving to Charlotte, that is when I truly realized the importance of friendship. In honor of National Friendship day coming up on August 7th, I share with you my friendship story.
I’m in a new city with a new apartment and still looking for a job. The only person I knew was my roommate. A little scary, huh? This move definitely took all of my courage, but I knew where I wanted to be and was willing to figure out the rest. Once I did, I felt extremely proud and accomplished. Not to mention I did it all on my own. I was positive that everything was falling into place, yet still I felt like something was missing. I never truly thought about it before, but this was the first time that I did not have a solid friend group to surround myself with. After all, you can’t do everything with your roommate.
Thinking back to College and High School, I never really had to try to make friends. They just sort of happened. In High School I was always involved in numerous activities like cheerleading, girl scouts or the dance team. In college I had my sorority sisters. Now that I found myself in a new city working as a nanny, one cat later, I found myself in a friendship slump. What’s the point of living in such a beautiful and fun city if you don’t have anyone to share it with?
After living in Charlotte for about a year, I finally came to the realization that friends are much harder to make when you’re an adult and they aren’t just going to come to me anymore. That is when I decided to finally make an effort to do something about it. I joined MeetUp groups, attended networking events and reached out to anyone I met in the process. Then, something amazing started to happen. These connections were cultivated into actual relationships. I started talking with these people on a daily bases. Old connections formed new connections. I was hired at Perfect Fit Placement, where I have met some wonderful human beings and met even more wonderful human beings through them. I couldn’t believe what was happening, but I am so glad I took the initiative to seek out these relationships.
I have always thought of myself to be on the shy-side and that is why I could have never in a million years imagined myself to be a part of a brand new friend group- that I initiated. This has been such a blessing to me. Throughout all of this, I have learned never to take friendship for granted again. It is something so special, yet can be hard so hard to find. So when you do find it, don’t forget to hold onto it.
Jenna Cates: Perfect Fit Placement Specialist